I’ve talked to a lot of couples who will say, “We don’t make a big deal out of our wedding anniversary. There are so many things going on in our lives right now that we really don’t have the time or the energy to focus on that. Besides, we can focus on that later in life when our kids are grown and we have more time with each other.”
That is so sad to me……you see the divorce rate right now hovers around 54%. That means that one in two marriages fail so the way I look at it is that we all need to rejoice and celebrate when we make it another year in our marriages. We need to pay attention to the successes that happen in our relationships. If we don’t focus on what we have accomplished and make a big deal out of it, then the message is that our marriage really doesn’t matter. This is very dangerous to a relationship.
Think of it like this. What if you told your child that you weren’t going to celebrate his birthday until he was 18 because it took too much energy and there were just too many things going on in your lives to stop and take a moment to acknowledge his growth and birth? I’ll tell you what would happen. You would make it on the cover of the National Enquirer as a crazy parent who is neglecting your child! We wouldn’t even think of doing that because we know how important it is to acknowledge the beginning of our child’s life.
We need to do the same in our marriages; celebrate and acknowledge the beginning of our lives together. You can’t put your marriage on hold and think that one day you will focus on it because one day may never come. By the time your kids are grown and life slows down, you will look across the room at each other and wonder who you are. Statistics tell us right now that the highest percentages of divorce are happening within the first 5 years of marriage and then again when all the children are grown; around the 20th year of marriage. If we are going to make our marriages work, we have to celebrate the successes every time they happen. We have to make a big deal out of our marriages and celebrate when great things take place.
When was the last time you celebrated something in your marriage (a big thing or a little thing)? What emphasis do you place on your wedding anniversary? Are you putting your marriage on hold for other things? Look for something you can rejoice in today and acknowledge that with your spouse. Start celebrating your successes!
P.S. We do practice what we preach……Michael and I will be celebrating our 31st wedding anniversary next week on September 5th and we are taking a whole week off to rejoice in all that the Lord has done in our marriage! Believe me, we are gonna do some celebrating!!!