We went to a wedding this weekend and as the ceremony began, I realized how much I love weddings. You know, the social atmosphere, the beauty of the bridal party and the essence of love in the air. I love the way the mother of the bride cries when she sees her daughter walking down the aisle and the way the father of the bride beams with pride as he holds his daughter on his arm. I love watching the groom glow when he sees his wife-to-be and the spark of emotion that fills his eyes. I love when the preacher says, “We are gathered here today….” I love hearing the vows and the declarations and the strong emphasis of this being a lifelong commitment. All of these things combined make for an amazing moment when everything in the world seems right. 

I especially love weddings where God is given the glory and the honor He deserves when a covenant is established between the bride and groom. There is no greater wedding than a Godly wedding where the bride and the groom understand that the purpose of marriage is not to make them happy but to make the two of them holy.  I guess I should rephrase my beginning statement and say this, I love weddings where the ceremony is a priority and the couple realizes the covenant they are making between themselves and God.  I love weddings where the bride and groom have taken the time to understand the commitment they are making and have prepared for their marriage.   

You see, far too often weddings are more about the reception than the ceremony. Couples pour considerable time, energy and money into making the reception unforgettable and don’t realize that the ceremony is the primary moment when the “me” becomes a “we” and two lives become one. It should be a time when couples focus on hearing what is said and taking that to heart; a time when couples embrace the lifelong commitment they are making to each other.

Unfortunately, that is not the case today. I’m embarrassed to say that we have officiated weddings where the bride and the groom have said, “It doesn’t matter what the ceremony looks like, we want it to be short so we can party at the reception.” I think it was at that moment when Michael and I decided we could not marry couples just to marry them. It became clear to us that if they did not understand and honor the covenant they were making then we could not be a part of their wedding. We are tired of seeing marriages fall apart 1-2 years after the wedding because the couple really didn’t believe the marriage was for life. 

One final thought…..I love weddings because they remind me of my own marriage and the commitment I have made to my husband.  They give me a chance to reflect on the vows I made and to examine my “oneness” with my spouse. Why don’t you take a moment today and remember the vows you made to your spouse. Ask yourself if you are honoring those vows and make some changes if you see you have slipped into complacency. Have a “wedding” moment of your own right now and determine to honor your commitment.