Yesterday a friend treated me to a wonderful day at the spa. We had facials and body scrubs and massages; it was incredible to say the least. I remember thinking during our time at the spa how pampered I felt and cared for by people that I didn’t even know. They were catering to my every wish and it made me feel very special. In fact, so special that I didn’t want to leave at the end of the day.

While I was getting my massage, I had a thought. What if we treated the people we know and love the way the spa people treat us? What kind of relationships would we have if we served each other like that?  Then, I became convicted over the number of times I take my relationships for granted. I’m not pampering those I love. I’m not even being nice sometimes….yikes, did I just admit that?  Moving on……

Now, I’m not talking about being a doormat in a relationship so don’t panic about that.  I’m talking about serving each other in a way that has meaning and value to it.  I’m talking about paying attention to the little things that make each other feel special. What if we paid more attention to what we are saying to each other and then really focused on following through with the requests we made?  Wouldn’t that make our relationships better? It would require unselfishness and effort but in the end, our relationships would be healthier and happier.

I think I read somewhere that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile. I think it also takes more energy to be negative and selfish than it does to be positive and selfless. I also think that when we sow the seed of goodness, we get goodness back.

Take a few minutes today and think about your relationships. What part of “spa like” treatment can you give those you love? Kind words? A gentle, affectionate touch? Bringing him/her a favorite drink or snack? Waiting patiently for them? Smiling? It doesn’t take much to show “spa like” love. We just have to decide to do it.