Yesterday while Michael and I were driving home from church, he looked at me and smiled and instantly, my heart skipped a beat. I had a shiver go down my spine and I felt all warm and fuzzy inside. It reminded me of the way I felt when we were first dating and all I could think about was him. We will be celebrating our 31st wedding anniversary in just a couple weeks and it did my heart good to realize that he can still do that to me.
Marriage gets a bum rap today with people thinking that the longer you are married the more boring and unexciting it becomes. It’s not uncommon today for people to think that only young love can make a heart skip a beat…..you know, couples who have just met and are in the infatuation stage of their relationship. The message of marriage today is that you grow old with each other but you don’t really enjoy the trip. Now, this is certainly true for some couples. They don’t learn to be a team and they don’t find ways to stay connected. Their love doesn’t grow deeper and they aren’t passionate about each other. The message they are sending is that love has the element of commitment but not enjoyment and satisfaction. Just look at the message that is sent today in the 30 minute sitcoms on TV…….the message? Marriage is like being in prison. It makes me feel so sad every time I see this message communicated in our society.
I’m glad that I am not in a marriage where enjoyment and satisfaction do not exist. The message I want my marriage to send is that being together a lifetime is wonderful. I want people to know that I am married to my best friend and that without him, I feel like I am missing something. I want people to know that marriage can be passionate and satisfying and one of the greatest things that can happen to you. I want people to see healthy communication and conflict resolution that brings us closer together. I want to send the message that marriage can help grow you up and mature you to be the greatest person you can be. I want people to know that a healthy marriage MUST be worked on and made a priority. I WANT PEOPLE TO WANT TO BE MARRIED and I want people to want to work on their marriage so it never becomes a burden.
What message is your marriage sending? Does it send the message that marriage takes all the fun out of life or does it send the message that marriage is fulfilling and rewarding? Is it time to sit down with your spouse and talk about the “message of your marriage?” Don’t wait another minute to make a change if you see you need one. Do what you can to send the message that “marriage is worth it when we make it worth it!”